Memory, General, pyschology

The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (and How to Avoid Them)

By Arnold
November 9, 2022

 

Life moves fast between taking the kids to school, making that family thanksgiving buffet, running daily errands, and attending work meetings. 

Are there still goals you want to achieve, dreams you wish to realize? It’s never too late! 

We’ve included a groundbreaking study that supports living your life to the fullest. 

Bronnie Ware is an Australian palliative nurse who spent years caring for the dying in the last three months of their lives. She said, “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced repeatedly.”

She put together the five most common regrets of people moments away from their last breath. 

What were these common regrets? 

Read on to find out!

 

 

1. “I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”

This was the number one regret of all. When someone realizes their life is almost done and looks back at it, they see how many dreams they couldn’t accomplish, only fulfilling half of their aspirations. 

Try to live at least some of your dreams before it’s too late, and take advantage of the time you have right now. 

 

 

2. “I wish I hadn't worked so hard”

In the study, every male patient missed their partner's company and their children's innocence. 

Women shared this regret as well, but due to the study being of an older generation, most men Bonnie Ware cared for bitterly regretted spending so much of their life working. 

 

 

3. “I wish I had the courage to express my feelings”

To maintain harmony with other individuals, many people hide their emotions. As a result, they compromised and never lived to their full potential. 

According to world-renowned physicist Richard Feynman, “You have no responsibility to live up to what other people think you ought to accomplish. I have no responsibility to be like they expect me to be. It’s their mistake, not my failing.”

 

 

4. “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends”

It was not always easy to locate old acquaintances, and frequently patients would only fully appreciate the advantages of those friends once their final weeks. 

Over the years, many people have let cherished friendships pass them by because they had grown so engrossed in their own lives. Many people regret not investing the necessary time and effort in their connections. 

 

 

5. “I wish that I had let myself be happier” 

Many people did not understand that choosing happiness until it was too late. They had continued to act in the same patterns and routines. Their physical and emotional lives were both affected by the seeming "comfort" of familiarity. 

They pretended to be content with others and themselves out of fear of change. They secretly want to laugh freely and experience absurdity once in a while. While you die, what other people think of you is far from your mind. 

 

 

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  • You put much value on your time and work at a job that matches your lifestyle. 

  • You acknowledge and communicate your emotions.

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  • You allow yourself to smile.

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